List Of Negative Energies Affecting Your Marriage.

You might wonder what energy am I talking about or what concerned energy and marriage, but I would want you to calm down and carefully follow me to lead you so you will get everything I will talk about here.
Everything we do in life is connected to different energy, and it can be a positive or negative one. 

For example, doing a business is connected to energy, pausing a specific level in your career is connected to energy, the same thing with marriage. (This energy I am talking about simply means efforts.)

Now let me take you to that part of marriage where negative efforts are destroying your marriage; meanwhile, you are thinking that you are enjoying pleasure, but I am telling you that is not true.

Here are those energies.

1. You channelled your energy in pleasing another woman or a man in the street because you find the person attractive and romantic despite knowing that you have a partner at home. Listen, if you channel the efforts you have put or are about to put in maintaining those extramarital affairs into your marriage, you will find out how deep you are in love with your spouse, but because currently you are blindfolded with fake promises, lust, or infatuation, you are thinking that there is no need to take care of your marriage. Take a break from these extramarital affairs, sit down alone at home and reflect back on how you and your loving partner started, think about the love memories you have shared, the good deeds you have done for each other, then you will discover that the person you are having extramarital affairs with doesn't truly love you more than your spouse. 

If there is anything preventing intimacy in your marriage, I am advising you to fix it, make things right and start enjoying your marriage.

2. You are comparing your marriage with another person's. I want you to understand that there is no competition in marriage, and there will never be. I will be glad to as well tell you that all marriage can never be the same whether financially, emotionally, spiritually, and romantically; after all, what I like must not be what you will like so there is no need to compare marriages. Let us take it from the financial angle: everyone does not earn the same income, and even if we do, we do not do the same expenses at home; we do not have the same ideology about marriage.

So in your own marriage, do what works for you, do not try to bring and force what is working in another person's marriage into your marriage; if you do it, it will negatively affect your marriage. What you should do is to stop comparing your marriage with another person and start improving the ones that are working for you.

3. Stop discussing the weakness of your marriage with a third-party. Whatever that is the weakness of your spouse should not be discussed with a friend or external family members, because many of them will discourage you to continue with the marriage. If you find out any weakness in your spouse that is affecting the well-being of your marriage, inform him or her about it; if it is not something the both of you can handle amicably, then it is very important that the two of you agree to visit a trained licensed marriage and relationships counselor who will help to fix the issue. Put positive efforts towards fixing it instead of broadcasting your marriage and letter realize that you have opened your secrets to the world.

The best way to be free from this is when you start facing your marriage with a full open mind. You are in charge of your marriage, and there will be trials and pressures; you should always be ready to face them because nobody will do it for you. Always be at peace with your partner; from there, love, understanding, intimacy and happiness will automatically develop and grow.

Think about how to always improve instead of comparison because this is the bridge that leads to the success of your marriage.