Signs That You Have Failed In Your Marriage.

A failed marriage did not suddenly happen; it's a sudden change in character, believe and approach towards things that ordinarily the person see as bad things, after all it was bad and they were avoiding them, but along the line in the marriage, they started doing behaving in that manner; they know that is bad; that is what makes the person a failure in the marriage.

Whether single or married, whenever you start doing these things I listed below, just know it that you have failed completely in your marriage.

1. You have failed in your marriage when the same person that you so much loved and cherished before suddenly starts seeing him or her as a disaster and a mistake in your life for no just cause.

2. When you are no longer committed to making your marriage work as you originally planned with your spouse simply because challenges and trials came.

3. When you start seeing home chores as a duty of a particular gender. Maybe as a man, you suddenly started viewing it as only a woman that's required to do home chores, such as bathing the kids, washing clothes, etc. Meanwhile, before you got married to each other, you wholeheartedly knew that was not a duty of a particular gender.

4. You have failed in that marriage the moment you start splitting house bills between you and your spouse instead of working as a team in tackling those bills.

5. Just after your spouse lost their job and can not provide basic things for the family, you start seeing them as liability; meanwhile, you know their financial challenges.

6. Just few years after your wedding, you suddenly discovered that bathing with your partner is unromantic, thereby discouraging him or her from bathing with you. So you are not aware that bathing with your spouse is one of the things that increase intimacy, oneness, and romantic bond between you and your better half? If possible, bathe together every day and don't just bathe in one bathroom but bathe each other, and you can even play while bathing just like when you are bathing your child; after doing it consecutively for 3 months, you will see how deeply you will be in love with each.

7. You have failed woefully when you believe that apologizing to your partner whenever you did something wrong means you are emotionally and mentally weak. Are you not told that you are a peacemaker, a loving and caring partner when you apologize to your spouse? Infact, you are the wisest because you did not allow pride and ego to control you over peace, unity, happiness, and harmony. Always apologize when you get it wrong but your apology must be from the depths of your heart; also, you should not take your spouse's acceptance of your apology for granted; always do what's right; we all know that mistakes are inevitable but do not play with someone's emotion.

8. When you start acting with the belief that school runs is only for a particular person, but you already know that it is the duty of you and your spouse to make sure that the children go to school on time every day.

9. When you suddenly start complaining about your partner's every little mistake, things you know that were not done intentionally, but instead of you overlooking them, you seize it as an avenue for nagging and verbal bully against him or her. Hello, you have failed in your marriage.

I am advising you today to cease doing all or any of the ones you are doing because you are indirectly destroying your marriage.
Instead of being a failure, start collaborating with your spouse as one body, spirit and soul. Don't stress anyone by increasing their workloads when you can make things easier for both you and them.

Collaboration will lead to success, but denying your responsibility will destroy your marriage.