Marriage is never like courtship or dating relationship, also marriage is beyond wedding, and if you are already married, I expect you will understand this already because of the things you have faced from the time you get married, the ones that you conquered and the ones that conquered you.
Today, I want to reveal to both singles and married how your mother-in-law can contribute to the success of your marriage, this is not because she is the mother of your husband but because there are things you can do to win her love, this is not logic or anything secrets.
1. You start with respect. No matter how she treats you, that is if you sensed that she does not want you to marry her son, always respect her decisions and boundaries. This doesn't mean that she should take control of your marriage, but even if you want to disagree with her on anything, do it with deep respect. If you are lucky to be loved by your mother-in-law right from when you came inside their family, then you are a step ahead in winning her heart because she has already love you. Let her see more values in you as this will inspire her to willingly accept your marriage with her son.
2. Don't be partying with anyone who gossips about her and don't be a public relations officer between her and those who gossip about her. The reason is by the time you start doing it, you will be seen as a relationship destroyer between her and those people. So if someone wants to discuss anything negative about your mother-in-law in your presence, walk away or if you can rebuke the person, do it immediately and protect your relationship with her.
3. Create the habit of calling her on the phone at least 2 or 3 times a month. Show her that you care, and if you have the financial capacity to buy her gift, you can do it especially during celebration time like December, January, or Easter. It must not be expensive but it should be valuable and problem solving for her.
4. Don't report your husband to her for whatever reason except when a life-threatening issue is involved. Reporting your husband to your mother-in-law for every little misunderstanding could sound like she did not train him well before he married you.
5. Make her understand that she's also your mom, respectfully for the fact that she gave birth to the love of your life. This implies that you wholeheartedly accepted and loved her just the same way she accepted and loved you.
6. Occasionally whenever you are on the phone with her or you visited her, ask her to tell you foods your husband love most when he was single. This question is necessary because what he love now maybe completely or slightly different from the things he love before, then with this information, you already know how to be a good wife to your husband in the part of his favorite meal.
7. While your mom is guiding you so that your marriage will not fail, it is also necessary that you learn from your mother-in-law things about marriage, like how to pamper a man both when he is angry and when he is happy, the positive secrets that kept them in marriage happily. Your friendship with her will make her to share her experience with you. By the time you join these experiences together, there will be positive results in your own marriage.
You see that your mother-in-law has a lot to add for you for the happiness of your marriage. You are married to her son, but don't neglect her emotional and physical presence; otherwise, you will lose her impacts.
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