Marriage is one of the best unions you can dream of seeing yourself together with the person you cherish so much, someone you love and as well-loved you unconditionally in return.
Also, marriage is one of the institutions that will first give a certificate of graduation the day you are admitted (your wedding day), and before that certificate can be destroyed (I mean divorce), you must seek the consent of your partner, because you are not married to yourself, you are in the marriage with someone else.
Marriage is awesome, it gives a beautiful life experience, but unfortunately, due to the negative things we have seen around us from those that are married, we begin to have a double mind about marriage. Some young people grew up in a family where parents fought each other, others grew up with a single mother or single father, some with divorced parents. Also, there are people that grew up with toxic parents.
So, because of all these unpleasant memories, they began to have a rethink about marriage by asking themselves questions like;
Is this how marriage is?
Is marriage a battlefield?
So they concluded that if that's how marriage is, it is better to remain single, instead of living with a violent partner for the whole days of their lives all in the name of marriage.
Today, I will leak to you the secrets that helped me to overcome the fear of marrying the wrong person.
When I was a teenager, I had a bad experience with marriage because of where I grew up, how people treated their marriage partners, how affectionate these married couples are with each other. Then I concluded that I would have nothing to do with marriage throughout my whole life, but after I moved out of that vicinity to another state, I began to understand that everyone is not the same, as individuals, we all have different lifestyles, beliefs and mentality, and in marriage the most important thing is LOVE and UNDERSTANDING.
With this understanding, I decided to nurture a kind of marriage that people will admire to imitate. So 6 years before I got married, I prayed to God for the kind of life partner I want. Listen, I am not talking just about physical attraction but in terms of personality traits, the person's relationship with God, and how the person should always behave towards me.
I carefully outlined my desire for God for 6 consecutive years. Is unbelievable, right? I did it, and after 6 years, for completely 3 years later, I didn't talk about marriage. I didn't put my mind on anyone. I wasn't expecting anyone to be that special person I had prayed about, I just blanked my thoughts about marriage.
In the month of May 2018, I came in contact with that special someone I had prayed to marry long time ago. I didn't know until all the things I prayed for started manifesting, then I remembered my prayer points. I celebrated it, because it's a great goal for me which I have achieved.
You see, with your thoughts you can shape your marriage life, you can define the kind of woman or man you want to marry. You can also describe the personality, the religious beliefs and practices of the person even without knowing him or her.
A great marriage is not a product of love at first sight, immorality or premarital affairs but a product of preparation through prayers, and understanding what marriage actually means.
I want to advise you, dear reader, to stop being afraid of getting married because of the things you have seen in other people's marriages today. What you are seeing is their marriage and not your marriage, which simply means that your marriage must not be like another person's marriage.
Just aspire to make a difference, you can achieve it, is possible through committed prayers.
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