I have been there before when I was dating my first girlfriend. From 2013 to 2017, it was not easy. Within these years, I believed that she would change. I know I am in a toxic relationship but, because of the deep love I have for her, I was expecting positive changes from her, but unfortunately we ended the relationship because it was affecting me negatively.
Whether you are new in a relationship, or just starting with the person, if he or she starts acting or giving you these attitudes, take them as a clear sign of a toxic relationship.
In my own case, I don't have money, and I was not earning well as a civil servant, but she's always nagging that I don't want to give her money, and could you imagine that the person that said I have money and don't want to give her money is jobless and doesn't have anyone that will give her, then the little one I saved from my salary to give her, she said is too small for her. Her consecutive nagging traumatized me. Take it that one of the signs of a toxic relationship is consecutive nagging.
When your partner is always blaming you for their failure in business or job, or that you are contributing to the problems they are facing because they noticed the problem started after they started the relationship with you, it is a sign that the relationship is now toxic to you. And if you are the one doing these things to your partner, please stop being toxic, be a good partner instead of creating a toxic environment in your relationship.
Verbally fighting with your partner is a sign of a toxic relationship. It is normal to have a misunderstanding or even have a small argument with your partner, but when it is affecting your relationship, please know that it has become toxic. When one of you starts abusing the other person verbally, always finding fault against the other person, you no longer see love, respect, and togetherness, everything has completely turned upside down. Hey dear, you are in a toxic relationship. The funny thing is that your dating relationship may have been sweet and loving in the past few days, weeks, or months ago, but suddenly, your partner changed, so you are now surprised and finding it hard to believe that your relationship is now toxic to you. Yes, anything can happen. It is only the almighty God that can't change. Humans can change characters anytime.
Toxic relationships can also happen when the person that has made the relationship a toxic one has started dating another opposite gender and doesn't want to openly end the relationship, so they want to make the relationship uncomfortable for you by making it toxic, so you will leave by yourself.
In summary, a toxic relationship is when it has become harmful for you to continue in the relationship either mentally, emotionally, or physically. When things have become unwell for you in the relationship, unlike how you had been enjoying each other in the beginning, when your life is facing threat of any kind from your partner, when everything has turned negative against you, no more respect, and a lot of things that make the relationship enjoying and loving has been compromised, then, it is already toxic.
It was a terrible experience for me and I pray that no one will experience it and face what came my way as a toxic relationship, amen.
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