Beautiful But Ugly Union Everyone Wants To Join..

This life is full of stories and experiences you know, because of what we have face and what has faced us, and the most funny part of it is that sometimes or let me say Many of the times what makes you happy is somewhat or exactly what makes another person sad so you see that life is full of stories.

Yes, today I can confidently tell you that I have experienced marriage although not on the bad side but at the same time I will tell you that I have both a good and the bad experience for marriage probably because of experience from relationship before I got married so that being said I had bad experience in relationship, so putting this experiences together we will agree with me that I have had both good and bad experience about marriage. 

Anywhere, I have something different to tell you about marriage because you may not have actually heard about it, so today I'm going to make it open to you so that even if you are single and searching you will understand more about marriage and even if you are already married you will add it to the knowledge you already have about marriage.

So let's go to the main topic that brought us this discussion which is "Beautiful But Ugly Union Everyone Wants To Join",. Everybody wants true love including me but is very hard, very tough to find a true love although it exists but can't be physically found so you see the challenge? I hope you are now beginning to understand me?  So what do you want to see in marriage but I tell you marriages is very ugly however you should always wish to be there, yes I know what I'm saying, because I am already there so I am telling you based on experience. 
I am not trying to discourage you if you are a single person searching for a true love or searching for someone that will love you truly for who you are, you hardly see someone that will not be keeping secret from you in marriage and Secrets is one of the dangerous things that can easily destroy a marriage. 

Because we all came from different family background and culture and sometimes from different religion, we start learning each other from the day we are pronounced husband and wife, are you seeing the ugly part of it now? So because of all these things so many times domestic violence will erupt because of misunderstanding and disagreement between this two people that came from different backgrounds of origin. 
Have you not heard about DNA? This is because of paternity fraud that happens in marriage. Also, because of infidelity that happens in marriage, a lot of heartbreaking things has happened in marriage. Now tell me sincerely from your heart, will you sincerely still love that person that cheated on you several times in marriage even though you cought him or her red handed, and they apologized promising never to do it again, from the sincerity of your heart will you forgive and still genuinely love the person again I know it will even be impossible even if you try to please yourself or please the person so that peace will reign in your marriage.

From my own point of view personally, as my opinion, marriage is good if you have not entered inside of it, if you have entered inside that's when you start to experience the ugly part of marriage. Have you entered a union or an institution that from the day you are registered and confirm the member you'll be issued a certificate but it happens in marriage. 

A marriage many who are in there are wishing to come out but because coming out is not easy they are finding it difficult to come out because they want to be single, they don't want to be in marriage again. 
So let's just take it that is something very glitter, very beautiful if you look at it from a far distance but when you go inside, that is when you will start to perceive the real smell, the real odour,  you will begin to see the real color of what you have entered into because by then you are inside already. 
One of the major reason for this is because of change in character from the person they are married to, both men and women are guilty of this. Many people change after their first child birth, some change even when they are not given birth to a first child, because they have been hiding their true characters, they want to go into marriage with that particular person. 

Marriage is not only like a shoe, marriage is also like a bag, I hope you understand me very well now? When you buy a bag you don't really know what is inside that bag until you open it so that's marriage for you, that person be it man or woman could be very attractive and beautiful, exactly your physical desire for the person you want to get married to, but then after marriage you will know who they are truly. 

Please understand that I am not trying to discourage you not the get married you may end up Marrying the best person for you positively, so try your luck because everybody doesn't have the same luck especially when it comes to marriage. 

But don't forget that marriage is ugly inside.