17 Anger Management Rules For Every Couple.

1) Is important to understand that anger is normal in human emotion

2) Know the temperament of your partner and learn to control yourself always. You should know whether you or your spouse are hot-tempered, or slow to anger? This will equip you on how to better handle yourself and your spouse whenever there is disagreement in the house.

3) Do not get comfortable using abusive words and insults on your partner; if you do it, most likely you will use those hurtful words when you are angry at each other. You should decide that your tongue will be controlled every time even when in a wave of serious anger. It is very painful to have a spouse who tells you abusive words, such words and insults are hard to heal especially when they are coming from your spouse.

4) When you or your spouse are angry at each other for any reason, learn to be silent or walk away. Refrain from talking before you say something hard to take back.
5) Even as you walk away from him or her, keep the channel of communication open and positive. Don't cause heartbreak to your partner by running away from the house.

6) Never hurt your spouse because you feel hurt my spouse. Revenge is not good in any marriage because it can lead to violence, hurt, and deterioration which will negatively affect your union. Be the bigger person to always control his or her anger.

7) Resolve every misunderstanding as quickly as possible. Sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with your sweetheart no matter how painful it is. Feel free to express your feelings.
8) Make romance a priority in your marriage, it will keep the flame of love alive.
9) Pray for your marriage. In the midst of your anger towards your partner, pray for your marriage, for it not to collapse because of anger against each other. In the midst of your spouse's anger against you, pray for him or her. Prayer moves and changes people.

10) Play worship songs to attract the presence of God in your marriage. Worship God without ceasing. A spirit that loves God will always be calmed in the face of challenges because he would always want to get direction from God before taking action or before speaking.

11) Remember the bigger picture in you. When you are angry think before you act, it is easy to focus on the current emotion instead of thinking about the result; so don't forget just how far you and your spouse have gone in the journey of marriage. Don't throw away a beautiful love so good out of a moment simply because of anger.

12) Double and triple-check the decisions you make whenever you are angry. As a matter of fact, refrain from making decisions anytime you are angry. Decisions made in anger are often lead to regret.
13) Go out of your way to please your spouse and by doing so you will be happy.

Do a gesture to your spouse that shows care and affection, and proves that you truly love them; do things like cooking their favorite meal, serve your spouse breakfast in bed, give your spouse a gift unexpectedly, do the chores together with her, leave a loving note for your spouse and tell him or her how deep you loved them.

14) In the moment of anger don't forget to tell your spouse "I love you", even if your spouse will not reciprocate it back to you. At that moment, a lot of assurance is needed from you that you truly love the person. Love is not based on feelings but on your commitment, sacrifice, and truth.
15) Find it in your heart to forgive and to ask for forgiveness too, be easy to love. The sooner you do this, the better life will be for you and your partner.

16) Stay away from throwing things or becoming physically violent anytime you are angry. Mature people don't cause physical harm to others simply because they are angry.
17) No matter what happened that leads you to be angry against your spouse, sleep in the same bedroom and on the same bed because it can easily heal you of emotional wounds. No going to sleep on the sofa or in different rooms anytime there is disagreement. When you guys get used to isolation from each other your marriage will suffer it.

The happiness of your marriage is 100% in your hands, a marriage counselor can do his or her job but you are to act positively on their advice.

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