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My Advice For You If You Suspect Your Partner Is Cheating.

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It's obvious that we are all different kinds of human from different family backgrounds, and personally we have different believe, lifestyles, and friendship connection with others. During dating relationships we will discover and understand man things about our partner, at this period if the negative part of the person is more than their positive parts, you may start thinking of quitting the relationship.



I saw the message on the screenshot below in a popular Facebook page, I thought that many people maybe facing that kind of problems in their relationships, I was moved to give a general advices that would favor all.



Here's my opinion as an advisor and Marriage and relationships counselor.
1. This is quite difficult and SACRIFICE from either of you will solve the debacle. Firstly, either your man find a nice way of leaving the group of friends that's if he cherishes a good future with you or because of your paranoid leave honorably if he doesn't heed to your advice.

2. Try to talk to your fiance about what his friends are doing, try to know where he stands, whether he supports their ways or not, if he says he doesn't like what they are doing, politely tell him to stay away from them since you are not comfortable with them. His reaction will speak volume about his position with them. If he doesn't listen to you now, he won't when you get married to him.

3. Your happiness is paramount and you should work towards achieving it through the issue at hand. Therefore discussed it with him and see his reaction. However, you've be dating him for few years now, was there any cheating behavior observed in him. If not, he has no such character and he can't develop it when he's married to you. My advise is to continue with the relationship.
4. I grew up in a street filled with so much unpleasant attitudes from different people but I choose what I wanted till date. He may be associating with such friends that you don't like because he enjoys their company and nothing more. Be at peace with yourself as long as he loves and treat you right. Limit your outting with him if you must find peace, make them try reduce hand for this lifestyle.
5. I think you are the kind of person that thinks too much. But talk to him, I get the feeling that even if he says he isn't cheating you won't believe him. You become your thoughts at some point. Don't go looking for trouble, if he's a cheat those truths will be revealed to you. No need to be a detective. If you trust him just trust him for who he is.
6. When I was courting mine partner, I experienced same thing you are facing now, anytime we hang out with his colleagues and friends, they always come with babes, I was worried too but hubby reassured me. Today he no longer mingle with those friends, no more late night, We have the same password, no strange calls. Even though there's no money but I have peace of mind. Please talk to him, his response will determine your next move regarding the relationship.
7. I understand you are worried about how his friends cheat on their wives but don't judge your fiancee based on that. I have only one friend whom I have been friends with for 6 years now and still counting. She's an outing type and smoke, drink and sleeps around while I'm on the opposite side. I don't go out, I don't smoke or drink and I'm not dating nor sleeping around, I am not condemning her because that's her lifestyle. So calm down and talk to your fiancee about how his friends cheat and know what he thinks about it.
8. If you go into a relationship focussing on negatives things, you will never get married. The fact is, you haven't seen your man cheat. The best thing to do is to concentrate on your relationship, communicate your concerns to your fiance'. Get assurance that your concerns are nothing to go by, and that he is committed to you, he has no eyes for other women. You can't lose what's so good and close to fruition just because of suspicion. That'll be unfair to the guy and the relationship. If he is serious about you, and the relationship, he will reason with you then you map out a way forward together! Stick to your man.
9. Use this opportunity to pray to God for directions, let God show you if his the right man God have made for you. If his not the right man, then move on with the one God will reveal to you, if his the right man God have made for you, then pray to God to help you and remove the character you don't like in him. It is only God that know the right man God have made for you. So you will not make mistake in marrying him.
10. You have not caught him cheating since 2-3 years you are in relationship with him and finding out that his married friends are chronic cheaters you conclude that your fiance has been playing fool with you. You don't go into marriage with the mindset of if your husband cheat you divorce him. If that is the redline is better home so that you will not be disappointed with heartbreak. Just keep praying that your husband remain a disciplined man and never give him a reason to start behaving like his married friends by taking care of his needs both inside and outside the bedroom. Mind your character and attitude and stop living in paranoia and face reality of life.
11. I must tell you that most of my friends are married. Amongst them are the ones that cheat on their partners without any remorse and some that don't see it as something they are interested in. That does not stop us all from hanging out whenever we can and when we do, we can play and joke around on matters like their side chicks and stuff. Still doesn't make anyone go against their personal beliefs. I'm single and their lifestyle won't affect my decision as to how to live my life when I eventually do marry.
12. My advise is that your guy can still be the good guy amongst them. If since you've been dating, you have not seen anything creepy or suspicious on him, just pipe low and discuss your concerns with him. His honest response will tell you where you belong in his heart.
 Finally..
The time to decide is now and when you do, don't flinch.
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