If you are already married, you will agree with me that no two marriages can be the same, likewise relationship; no two relationships can ever be the same; after all, we all came from different family backgrounds, beliefs and training, so there is no way our marriages and relationships can be the same.
Certainly, we all view marriage and relationships from a different perspective; this includes different knowledge and different meanings; for these reasons, don't allow these things in your marriage.
1. Someone should not tell you how to respect your partner by giving you an example of how they respect their own spouse at home. What they call respect in their home might be a disrespectful thing in your own home, so you should not be involved in it.
2. Nobody should tell you how to manage food items and money for cooking soup at home, citing how much their husbands give them for a pot of soup. Therefore, you should collect the same amount of money from your spouse as well. The truth is that, just as all fingers are not equal, financial responsibilities are not equal with individuals. Nobody should remote you on how to manage food items and money for cooking soup in your house. Cook as your money can reach instead of borrowing just to impress your friends.
3. Do not allow anyone to push you into pressuring your partner to start paying your monthly allowance. Is not a bad thing to pay monthly allowance, but before you brought such matter up for your spouse, hope you know his or her sources of income and the level of bills he pays at home? If his earnings cannot do it, do not push him for it before you will by yourself bring a problem that is capable of dissolving your marriage.
4. Wear clothes, shoes, and jewelries you and your spouse can afford to buy, not the ones you see someone wearing on an occasion like a wedding or birthday party. It does not make sense to borrow money for any of these things; it will not make you rich, rather it will increase your family financial pressure.
Do not do things you see people doing in their home; it is normal to admire or like what they do or what you see them wearing on an occasion, but if you cannot afford it financially and even when you work towards it, you still can not achieve it; please just forget about it and face your life.
Respect your partner as they are pleased, not as others are pleased; eat with your family what you can willingly pay for, not the one you will borrow money to buy.
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